WHEN TO SAY YES TO SEX

Reasons to say yes to sex:

  1. To have children - if you get pregnant would you want to have children with this person? (a good rule to go by)

How do you know you are ready for children?

  • You have the right partner

  • Your partner has financial ability to support you during the pregnancy (sometimes you can’t work when you’re pregnant because of needing to rest, or your job might not want a visibly pregnant employee) They don’t waste money on silly stuff vs paying their own bills. You both must have financial readiness for having children and the time commitment.

How do you know you have the right partner to have children with?

  • they are loving and safe

  • they commit to you and give you a title: girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, husband etc…

  • they put up photos of you on social media or physical photos, they are not afraid to be seen with you

  • they wouldn’t make you agree to stop the pregnancy

  • they willingly share their money and resources with you, they help with bills like paying at the restaurant.

  • If you got pregnant they would financially and emotionally support you and the child.

2. The pleasure of closeness with a partner - if you are going to have sex and it’s not for the reason of having children, then first you need to know:

  • how to not get pregnant:

    Can only get pregnant on and around ovulation days from days 9 or 10 through days 20 or 21 - so safest days to have sex are Menstrual Cycle Days 6-8 then again on MC Days 22-27.

  • proper birth control: condoms and

    naturally tracking the cycle (natural cycles app - taking a class on this is helpful!) + withdrawal method

If one of the above 2 conditions have been met, follow these 2 rules before saying yes to sex:

  1. You must naturally have a libido - your body must want it.

  2. You and the partner have to follow the Safe Sex Guidelines.

return to the Considerations Before Sex page